January 1 is the most important day of the year for me. That day I set aside to reflect on what I’ve accomplished the previous year and decide what I want to do in the coming year. It’s a day of contemplation and reflection, but it’s more than that. It’s also a day of commitment to action for what I decide to do on January 1 determines my path for the next twelve months. I’d like to share with you the goal setting process that I have developed and hope it is a value to you.
Setting the Stage:
Sit quietly with you diary or journal and you have to do is to signal your subconscious that an important event or events are to take place this year.
Close your eyes or keep them open, whatever works for you, but wait until you reach a calm, detached place before proceeding. In this calm state ask your higher self, “What are 10 things I’d like to do this year” When the answers start coming pick up the journal and write them down.
When no more items come easily to your mind, regardless of the number, stop writing. Force nothing. Now look at what you have written. Are there any patterns? Is anything or anyone conspicuously absent. Decide which items are your top 5 priorities for the year. Maybe you will be able to do all 10 but prioritizing is good practice so that we learn to focus and not spread ourselves too thin.
Examining your 5 priorities make a list of what pushes you forward to get them, the driving forces, and what holds you back, the restraining forces. The greater our driving forces and the lesser our restraining forces, the better our chance of getting our goal. Determine how much energy you will put into increasing your driving forces and decreasing your restraining forces. If your restraining forces are the greater, you may wish to consider dropping that goal and focusing on another one. Having unrealistic goals is one of the ways we sabotage ourselves in life.
Examine your goals to make sure they are within your power to make happen and that they are concrete and specific. This step will help you to eliminate goals like “I want to win the lottery” and “I want my family to be happy.” The first goal is not within your power and the second goal is not concrete and specific. Instead of saying, “I want my family to be happy”, you could say, “I will devote one hour daily to do whatever my son or daughter would like to do.” This is just an example you may have other goals you wish to pursue.
Develop action plans consisting of several steps that will move you from where you are now to your goal. Give yourself a date to start and a date to accomplish your goal. This step is your commitment to action. Lists will not get your goal only action will do that. Starting is the hard part. Once you have accomplished a few steps you will gain momentum and it’s easier to reach your goal than not to reach it.
Close your eyes and visualize yourself getting your goals. Practice this visualization every day. You can even write down your desires and wishes via a dream board. Why not get creative and draw a vision board. (More on this in the next blog). Let’s hedge our bets and do both the visualization and the practical steps of our action plan. Who knows maybe we’ll improve 47% that way.
Save your goal list and after you have written your goals for this year, take a look back at this year’s list and see how many goals you accomplished. You will be incredibly and pleasantly surprised.
Blessings Debbie x